Of course I am not worried about intimidating men. The type of man who will be intimidated by me is exactly the type of man I have no interest in.
The best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own. No apologies or excuses. No one to lean on, rely on, or blame. The gift is yours. It is an amazing journey, and you alone are responsible for the quality of it. This is the day your life really begins.
Give up defining yourself—to yourself or to others. You won’t die. You will come to life. And don’t be concerned with how others define you. When they define you, they are limiting themselves, so it’s their problem. Whenever you interact with people, don’t be there primarily as a function or a role, but as the field of conscious Presence. You can only lose something that you have, but you cannot lose something that you are.
As soon as you honor the present moment, all unhappiness and struggle dissolve, and life begins to flow with joy and ease. When you act out the present-moment awareness, whatever you do becomes imbued with a sense of quality, care, and love—even the most simple action.
The only true wisdom is in knowing you know nothing.
So, what is mindfulness?
Put simply, mindfulness means shifting your attention from what is going on around you to what is going on within you. Then you keep your attention on what is transpiring within you so as to see it clearly.
You are not trying to analyze, judge, or reject. You are just witnessing your own thoughts and feelings.
"As the sun on rising makes the world active, so does self-awareness affect changes in the mind. In the light of calm and steady self-awareness inner energies wake up and work miracles without any effort on your part." ~ Nisargadatta Maharaj
In other words, the very quality of your attention is what renders change and peace in the mind. It’s nothing you have to make happen, or even anything you can make happen. All you can do is shine the light of your attention. The light does the rest.
However, applying mindfulness only during stressful situations will not be of much use. You must practice daily meditation and continual mindfulness. Otherwise it’s like being a sports player who only shows up to the games but never the practices. You’ll get pwned.
A book I would highly recommend on these techniques is The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle.