Give up defining yourself—to yourself or to others. You won’t die. You will come to life. And don’t be concerned with how others define you. When they define you, they are limiting themselves, so it’s their problem. Whenever you interact with people, don’t be there primarily as a function or a role, but as the field of conscious Presence. You can only lose something that you have, but you cannot lose something that you are.
Eckhart Tolle (via lazyyogi)

spenserdrawsthings asked:

I don't know how to use mindfulness in daily life or during stressful situations, I don't seem to have the focus or attention to use it when I know it could help me.

lazyyogi answered:

So, what is mindfulness?

Put simply, mindfulness means shifting your attention from what is going on around you to what is going on within you. Then you keep your attention on what is transpiring within you so as to see it clearly. 

You are not trying to analyze, judge, or reject. You are just witnessing your own thoughts and feelings. 

"As the sun on rising makes the world active, so does self-awareness affect changes in the mind. In the light of calm and steady self-awareness inner energies wake up and work miracles without any effort on your part." ~ Nisargadatta Maharaj

In other words, the very quality of your attention is what renders change and peace in the mind. It’s nothing you have to make happen, or even anything you can make happen. All you can do is shine the light of your attention. The light does the rest. 

However, applying mindfulness only during stressful situations will not be of much use. You must practice daily meditation and continual mindfulness. Otherwise it’s like being a sports player who only shows up to the games but never the practices. You’ll get pwned. 

A book I would highly recommend on these techniques is The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle.